We only need to cover our expenditure of what has already taken place, we *don't* need to overeat in advance.
If you've done the training properly (i.e. provided the stimulus), it isn't in 'advance'. I can't recall suggesting this, not anyone else here suggesting it. Both on the micro and macro scale, your energy needs increase post-stimulus, not pre-stimulus.
Surplus is a stupid term anyway because we don't live in a lab environment calculating all our intake and expenditure with great precision.
The term is perfectly apt and not the least bit stupid. You might be unhappy or disagree with what it's definition ought to be commonly used as, but the term itself is perfect for the relative caloric intake it refers to.
To build tissue, any tissue, you need the energy to do it. You can't preferentially direct your energy supplies (food, fat) to build muscle when your bodies energy pathways are telling it that it needs to maintain (homeostasis) the status quo (i.e. conditions are implying its starving). Building muscle is an
incredibly energy inefficient process, and not something that complex life does very well. Skeletal muscle in humans is no different. Your body doesn't 'want' excess muscle. It (the excess, in its literal meaning of 'beyond necessity') requires extra energy to maintain, isn't particularly useful in Darwinian terms (think speed impact, flexibility impact, bigger target, increased vulnerabilities, increased requirements for food and water) and doesn't serve a function not otherwise provided by adequate (existing) skeletal muscle. We train to tell our bodies we need what it currently considers 'excess' (those aiming for hypertrophy, that is).
My personal opinion is that much of your position is biased by your poor experiences bulking in the past - it's coloured your viewpoint and led to generalisation and self-satisfied logical connections, rather than scientifically established outcomes. Not to say you're an idiot - you clearly aren't. But you're ice-skating up hill if you think you can cause the conditions needed for fat loss and muscle growth simultaneously,
and also implement both of those processes simultaneously. You over-ate on your bulked and definitely didn't train optimally (or close to optimal). Doesn't matter, you're on the right side of 40. Just don't waste a decade going for 're-comping' and come out a still-average size in the end.
There's a reason that surplus-deficit-repeat has worked for so many people, thousands of them.
2200 kcals body can always steal a few grams of protein and use it as material, because that's one of the things it needs to take care of.
No, it isn't something that needs taking care of. Sustaining what muscle it has? Yes. It will use amino acids to maintain the muscle it is (when in deficit/maintenance). It will not build new muscle if it can't energetically afford to. If you cut the training and maintain the eating, you'll get fatter and lose muscle. This is not 'catabolic', as some would argue. It's merely the lack of stimulus required to maintain the muscle mass and current homeostasis resulting in the (always present) muscle degradation processes winning out (ala your muscles are building and degrading at the same time, all the time, it's merely a matter of where the ratio is at - hence why we provide a stimulus -> being resistance training). You don't need the extra energy that you previously did for muscle building, expenditure and system maintenance, so your body doesn't the most energetically efficient process it knows and whacks those lipids into fat cells.
I agree that a scale is not the only measure you should use to judge LBM gains. However, it certainly should be
one of them, and its most apt use is to judge whether you are caloric surplus or deficit. If you aren't gaining weight, you aren't building muscle. Sustaining? Sure. Gaining? No, not unless you have substantial fat stores - say bf = 25% plus at a minimum). If you're eating too much, you aren't giving your body any reason to burn it's valuable fat stores. Those stores are the result of thousands upon thousands of evolutionary processes that there for the day when you don't have food and your tissue doesn't want to die right away because of that. They're not there to build muscle when you have no food, and they don't get used as such by any of the energy pathways available, at any (as yet) measureable or significantly relevant magnitude. If they did, we'd all be shredded and bigger.
Surplus? Yes, you need it. As I said, what your/anyone's necessary surplus
actually is - that takes figuring out.