No, you're wrong. Once rest periods are getting to the 3-4min range, your CNS is essentially recovered in entirety (CNS being the limiting factor, not muscle recovery). As rest periods approach 3-4min +, the difference in between 5RM and 5x3RM becomes negligible. That's what I was explaining to you; tens or hundreds of grams at most. i.e. as rest period -> 3-4min +, difference in load -> 0gms.
I think you find it almost, if not actually impossible to determine a literal 5RM load that can only be done for 5 reps once. Now, when we're talking about a program such as 5x5, it isn't working at 5RM because the rest periods are not sufficient to restore CNS to operate at 5RM (and certainly not for multiple, consecutive exercises, especially given the actual exercises used).
But if you're trying to imply or state that a 5RM can only be done for 5 reps once, then you absolutely must qualify the period of rest between efforts. I guarantee you that I can lift my 5RM for multiple sets of 5 with 3minute rep sessions. How do I know it's my 5RM, or "true 5RM" as you're misleadingly referring to it as? Because it's the highest load I can perform 5 reps with. Don't make the mistake of trying to define 5RM by how many sets of 5 you are capable of performing with a load, given sufficient rest.
5RM is the highest load you can only manage 5 repetitions with.
If you want to call it 3x5/3', you're welcome to. But if all you can manage is 5 reps, then it's your 5RM. Your 1x5RM can be the same as your 3x5RM/'3. The mistake you were making before, a few posts ago, was to identify a lower weight than your 5RM, based on the assumption that it would need to be noticeably lower than 1x5RM or else you wouldn't be able to do it. You're wrong on that front. What you should be doing is taking the sufficient rest to complete your 5RM for 3 sets, rather than reducing the weight prior to lifting.
You aren't getting stronger, therefore not getting bigger, if you don't lift heavy weights.
For a smaller exercise, lets say DB Shoulder Press, 95% of your 5RM and 100% of your 5RM are going to be very similar. You may not even be able to set the DB's separately. e.g, if you could do 5 with a 35kg DB, 95% of your 5RM is 33.25kg. Could luck finding that DB. You may wish to settle for 32.kgs, but personally I think that's a very poor choice. Extrapolate the weight difference from each arm; 2.5kg x2 and that's a (would-be) 5kg difference if it were a BB exercise at least. Your military press 5RM would be in the 75kg range, maybe closer to 80kg. Dropping 5kg from that means you're lifting at closer to 90% of 5RM. Which is a weight you will have already lifted at in your cycle The lesson here is to lift with your 5RM and not reduce it.
What if your 5RM is 20kg? Well 95% of that is 19kg. Stick with the 20kg again. Lesson here: the difference is too impractical and arguably irrelevant.
Now for a bigger exercise, let's take BB Rows. Your 5RM might be 100kg. 95% of your 5RM is 95kg;
a) You should have already covered 95kg. You really don't want to have to set your WHOLE lifting schedule back by 1-2 loads worth because you're too scared to lift heavy. Again, no growth is going to happen if you refuse to progress, and repetitively lifting at an achievable weight will not progress your strength, nor your size.
b) 5kg is a massive difference. I can do ~ 130kg on my bench as a 1RM, maybe a shade more. I can get out ~ 3 reps at 125kg. At 120 I can do a comfortable 5. 115 is in 7-8RM territory ... you see where this is going ... ?
5% difference on load is
1. Impractical for lower weights, and arguably irrelevant. There isn't a reason not to lift the actual 5RM. This is a reason people should not include lateral raises for the 15s and 10s of their cycle; the progression is too minimal.
2. It's too big of a difference for compound exercises. If your deadlift 5RM is 150kg's, 5% is 7.5kgs !!! That's a substantially different load. Remember, the body doesn't operate in terms of xRM %'s. It operates via load. Strength and size are both functions of load. As observers, we (scientists, the human race etc etc) notice and calculate correlations between the # of repetitions and the % of our 1RM (the maximum load we can move). But they're just correlations. The famous 85% of 1RM for total motor unit recruitment is just a calculation that makes it easier for us to work out optimal practice for lifting. The body doesn't care about that %. It recruits based on need. For some, that number will be closer to 80%, others it will be closer to 90%.
So why 5RM? It's correlates to a load that causes ~optimal hypertrophy, achieves complete recruitment and enables a sufficient 'metabolic' stimulus in conjunction with the load stimulus.
Long story made short: use your actual, literal, definitive 5RM and don't lower the loads. There's no reason to do it. Just gather your courage and take the rest periods.